My daughter has this
incredibly frustrating unfortunate behavior lately. I can only describe it as an attitude of entitlement. She isn’t appreciating what she has or what we are doing for her, instead she is questioning what are we going to do for her next. Some examples:
- Friends: While we were driving home after picking her up from a sleepover, she asked if she could have her friend – B – over for a playdate. Not tomorrow or next week, but right then. This was not the friend she just left, that would have been understandable, but was a whole new friend.
- Activities: We were at the zoo, about an hour in to what I expected would be a 3 or 4 hour day. She asked if we could go to Water World when we were done. Hello! We haven’t even really started this activity yet!
Why does this make me want to
scream bloody murder sigh deeply?
For one she is pushing my questioning if I’m a good mom button. But mostly, it’s that she is acting like the world is here to only please her and whatever happens isn’t good enough.
My daughter and I have had several
torturous conversations heart to hearts lately about enjoying the moment, appreciating how good she has it, empathy for others, and being good company. I am not too worried about her – pretty sure it’s part of the tweener attitude – the one that seems to tag along with starting to wear deod0rant and worrying if her hair is cute or not.
But during these
eye rolling important conversations I started thinking about what we are entitled to, because there are certain – to steal from the Declaration – unalienable rights that I feel people deserve.
What are we truly entitled to?
I think it differs depending on situation, so have broken it into four areas of life and will be writing a post about each in the coming days.
My friend Margie wrote a great article about Entitlement and Social Media that you should definitely check out, but before you head over there, make sure you subscribe to Mom in Management via facebook, email, rss, or twitter so you don’t miss any posts in this Series!