At 38, I can tell you that I am absolutely not prepared to die.
I have young kids that I want to see grow up, go to college, get married. I have trips I want to take. Projects I want to complete. Things to do, people to see.
Unfortunately death doesn’t always listen to the plans we’ve made. Young people can die unexpectedly. The phone rings and all of a sudden your life is turned upside down and you also have a million decisions to make.
Even when you anticipate death is coming, there are still a ton of details that must be handled and large decisions pressing on you. If your parent is dying, do you know how they’d want the following situations handled? Do you know how you’d like the following situations handled? Does your family?
- Do you (or your parents) want to be on life support?
- Do you want IV liquids and food if you are comatose?
- Do you want a feeding tube?
- If you aren’t conscious, who do you want making medical decisions for you?
- Do you want your organs donated?
- When does a DNR order apply? Do you want a DNR directive?
- What pain management efforts do you want undertaken? Side effects, such as comatose that you want to avoid?
- Do you want an autopsy performed?
- Cremated or buried?
- Where do you want your ashes or body placed?
- Do you have a will?
- Who will raise your children?
I know that I haven’t thought through all of these questions and I certainly haven’t made my preferences clear to my family. It’s hard to even know where to start.
The My Directives Conversation Starter is a good starting point. Take a look through the questions they’ve developed and ask yourself if you know the answers to them for your closest family members. If not, you may want to start some conversations.
My Directives also offers a free place to store your advance medical directives that is available to doctors and hospitals 24 hours a day.
I can imagine it would be great to have these instructions readily available versus your family trying to track down a piece of paper in the middle of an already stressful time.
Some more facts:
- MyDirectives.com is the very first HIPAA compliant web-based system for creating & storing advance medical directives and is endorsed by Baylor, the 5th largest health care system in the US.
- Individuals can create and update their documents at any time.
- Without an advance medical directive family members and health care providers are left with difficult choices, but storing medical wishes and emergency info online means you’ll get to have the final say.
I know these aren’t fun conversations to have. I know I would certainly prefer to ignore them as long as possible. But I must say I’d rather know what my parents want now rather than try to guess later.
I imagine if I am the patient, my kids would appreciate me taking the burden off of them for making these decisions too.
What do you think of the My Directives tool? Is it something you’ll consider using?
**This promotional sponsored post was made possible by Mom Spark Media. Thoughts are my own.