There are many times lately that I’ve seen someone attempt to mask malice by using words like karma. I’ve seen posts on Facebook or Twitter or just in every day conversation and someone says “Karma makes everything happen as it should.” At first blush, it sounds nice, right? But, don’t fool yourself. It’s not pretty. It’s ugly.
Think about it…
Posting about Karma
Any time you take pleasure in someone else’s pain or hardship, that is malice.
Pure and simple.
You can smirk and say
“Karma’s a bitch.”
“Be patient. Karma has a way of working things out.”
But don’t fool yourself into thinking that’s the statement of someone that is taking the high road. That is someone reveling in someone else’s struggle
Perhaps you’ve been hurt at the hands of this person. Perhaps you have history that you feel justifies your attitude. But don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re acting with good intentions. Own your feelings and your response.
You are happy that someone else is hurting. Period.
After admitting that to yourself do you feel badly? Does it make you look more closely at your own actions, your own contribution to the history with the other person?
If not, that’s sad.
Is Karma Real?
Yes, it’s much nicer to believe that there is some power balancing things out. That if you act good you will be rewarded, that if you inflict harm it will come back to you two fold. That life is fair somehow.
And yet, a good friend of mine died a few months ago -a sweet woman that never said a mean thing about anyone, that always had a smile, that was genuinely interested in my kids and their well being. Did she deserve to have aggressive breast cancer that came back with a vengeance and took her life before her newborn granddaughter ever had a chance to know her? I don’t believe so.
Was that her karma? Not based on any behavior I’ve ever seen.
Was that her 3 month old granddaughter’s karma to be denied her grandmother? How could it be?
Is it any child’s karma to be brutally murdered or burned beyond recognition? Of course not. What child has possibly done such evil to deserve that?
Yet, every time you or someone else throws a statement around about Karma balancing things out, or karma giving someone what they deserve, we are saying these people deserved what happened to them. These children deserved to be terrorized and disfigured, that they earned these tragedies somehow.
I’m not ok with blaming the victims. Are you?
I’d love it if we started calling people on these barely veiled statements of malice. That we stopped tolerating this enjoyment of another’s pain.
What about you? Will this post change your view of those karma posts next time?